Ep. 3: The Money Talk
After a few conversations, I was told that the title of Episode 2: Lets Talk About Sex made some of you a little uncomfortable. If it did and you have not listened to it, that’s okay. Maybe after a few more episodes you’ll go back to the second episode of 30-Something And Single to learn that it may not have been what you have thought. Maybe, you’ll never listen to it. Either way: it's all good.
Episode 3 is "The Money Talk." I know, I know: It’s only the beginning, and I’m already getting in pretty deep. If you’ve gotten to interact with me at all in person, you’ll know that this is just how I am. Sex and money, in my opinion, are the two biggest topics that we don’t talk enough about. You’ll find people on a date asking whether or not the other person wants to get married and have kids before they even discuss whether or not their life is conducive to being in a partnership or raising children. Why wait to be in a legally binding contract to learn that the person you have chosen to marry doesn’t have a healthy relationship with money? Or on the flip-side: Why get ourselves into a commitment that will only make us feel insecure or less than because we have not done everything that we could do to prepare ourselves for a life-long partnership?
My relationship with money had been non-existent for a long time until recently when I realized that my relationship with money has hindered me from living my best life—and lets be honest, it has stopped me from being in love. I’d always say that I don’t want to be in a relationship until I got my shit together, while subconsciously thinking that I wasn’t good enough for the kind of man that I was attracted to. I wasn’t being real with myself, because I didn’t really know how much money mattered. As Oprah would always quote Mya, “When you know better, do better.”
Before I began this transformed relationship with money, I needed to discover why I had this story that I had about never having a relationship with money. Living in a capitalistic society, it was inauthentic to say that I didn’t have a relationship with money because we all do, in one way or another, whether it’s conscious or subconscious. Some of us were blessed with parents and a community that has taught us the value of money; others were passed down healthy money habits; while most of us had parents who lived paycheck-to-paycheck trying to support a family. Most of our parents did not have the resources, skills nor time to cultivate and nurture a very significant relationship that we will all have as adults—yes, the one with money. Don’t feel bad. Yo’ girl is one of ‘em.
I had been ashamed for too long, and I have no reason to be. It’s time to transform my relationship with money. Ain’t nobody got time to wait for Prince Charming or a sugar daddy.
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1. Spending App, Tipsy App and Mint App
2. Money A Love Story by Kate Northup
3. The Law of Divine Compensation by Marianne Williamson
4. Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
5. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey