Back in my twenties, I had this awesome mentor turned friend who told me that I should take my blog posts and repurpose them. I knew that some of the stuff I shared were ideas that would be just as relevant when I wrote them in the future. So here we are: in the future, with a podcast—and we’re all still dealing with forgiveness and whether or not we should give second chances.
I wrote what you will hear in my mid-twenties, and my opinion stands true today in my thirties about forgiveness and second chances. I still think forgiveness is necessary and seconds chances are almost always bullshit. However, I get that people have their own healing process—some longer than others. At the same time, I truly believe that living with grudges and resentment is well…a waste of time. I think we hold onto grudges and resentment hoping to hurt the person who hurt us, but in reality, they’re doing just fine while we get to suffer.
At this point in my life, I don’t have the time nor the energy to give to anything that doesn’t serve me nor make my life better. Therefore, I try my best to deal with those emotions as soon as they show up. Sometimes, it takes me longer than I want it to, but for the most part, I am very intentional about recognizing negative emotions when they’re present, especially when they show up in my important relationships like the ones with my family and my closest friends. When we bring light to grudges, resentment and those negative emotions—instead of pushing them down and suppressing them—they get to be liberated, which means they have an opportunity to be transformed into something positive.
Disclaimer: I recorded this episode under the influence of an edible, which I will never do again, but I think it came out pretty good. Either way, you’ll get something out of it.