Season 2, Ep. 11: After Ever After
Hey, guys! So, I knew that this moment would inevitably happen—that yo’ girl would get herself committed into a relationship and then have to deal with what happen’s after happily-ever-after. However, I honestly did not think that I would get into a relationship three months into launching 30-Something And Single. If you’ve been listening, you’d learn that I planned on taking all measures (including a vow of celibacy) to keep my relationship status checked: single. But as the saying goes, “If you wanna make God laugh, tell him your plans.” (You know God is LOL’ing as I write this.) But you know what, this is what I asked for: my life partner.
Though my entire life had been spent resisting social norms and conventions, I cannot deny that my my inner desires has led to me who I am today. Lets be honest: my inner desires were greatly influenced and shaped by fairytales, Cinderella stories and well…advertising agencies. Yo' girl bought into “Happily-Ever-After”.
What exactly is “Happily-Ever-After”? For some, it’s a private jet, champagne bottles and a posse of IG models. For others, it’s a baby-and-a-baby-carriage. For me, it was Prince Charming. It wasn’t until I realized that some Prince Charmings lacked charm and that any man could essentially be Prince Charming that I decided to become my own Prince Charming. I knew that I could only recognize Prince Charming if I were to know exactly what it is that I am looking for in Prince Charming. Ultimately, what I truly wanted was a life-partner—and the only way to attract what I wanted was to embody what I desired from another in myself, which led to a divine relationship with my Self.
After years of breakdowns followed with a bunch of breakthroughs, I had reached a tipping point in my self-development and personal growth where it was time to create. While my friends were pregnant with their first child, my own was conceived. Nine months later, 30-Something And Single was born.
While some people may find that the greatest way to leave a legacy is to have children, one of my callings (and legacies) in life is not to change this idea but to expand it. Yes, I think that being a mother is one of the greatest callings in life and that there are other callings just significant and necessary. I remember reading a quote that said that the world doesn’t need more “successful people”, it needs more peacemakers, healers, restorers, storytellers, and lovers of every kind. In other words, you get to define for you what makes for a good and meaningful life. And for me, it’s to live a life of service through whatever vehicle (or opportunity) that I am given.
30-Something And Single was never about my relationship status. I could say that a million times and do this for years—yet, there are those of you who will refuse to believe me. But maybe now that I am in a relationship, you finally will.
This whole boyfriend thing has shifted the energy of 30-Something And Single, and it’s only gonna get better. Enjoy, guys.